I am sure you have read here that there is no magic bullet that is going to fix your situation. If if the A stops she will pretend to comeback to you until she finds Another M.
The only way these things workout long term is for you to have time and space from another. Build an awesome life for you and your kids. Then maybe some day she will want to join you. Just don’t be surprised if you don’t want her back.
Instead of worrying about Txhubbys thread you should read through JRUSS, Anotherstander and Accuray (s) threads.
