Thanks KML - no I have zero intention of saying it was mutual. NONE of what has happened these last year's has been mutual.

One last question if h tried to say it was mutual "your mom and I," how would you respond?

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced