Thank you Job, Bright, MM, Lou and Peace. As always, forever thankful for all the advice.
Peace, yes, mine told me we were to "share a lawyer" he had secured. So I asked, so you have a mediator? He said "no, a lawyer, we can share." ?!? I tried to tell him that isn't possible but then just gave up. Of course his lawyer said he couldn't advise us both. Mine also wanted to draft the whole thing with his lawyer and have me sign. He made a very compelling argument: it'll be faster and cheaper. The problem is there's no one to help me navigate the paperwork, what I am entitled to, what issues should I cover, etc. He thinks I'm being hostile. But in a D isn't it extremely common for both parties to get Ls?
Anyway, when he found out I got a L he flipped out. He had some choice words emailed to me, well, a page worth of choice words. And now he ignores me completely. He hates me. Of course he has a L, maybe I should draft everything and he should just sign. Oh, and my L asked his L to tell him to refrain from communicating with me about all this. He flipped over that, too. Big time control issues and loads and loads of PA behavior.
I am pretty stressed out and not sleeping well. I am ready for him to leave. I did ask my Dr. for something mild to help me sleep. I think this will help clear my thinking. Looking forward to some sleep tonight.
Bracing to tell the kids about it. Oh, I hope he doesn't do it without me. Any advice here?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
