Hey Neutral, Definitely comforting in a way to see that many others have MLC spouses that behave in the same way. Comforting because for awhile I was believing everything my wife was spewing and taking all of the blame for the MR. From what I've learned, MLCers are going through a transformation and will be different than before undergoing it. Not all relationships survive obviously. I still believe I can love my wife, at this point at least, with the changes she's undergoing because she's the same person at the core that I fell in love with. Trying to stay strong and positive through this all.
She wanted me to move out after both BDs, but I felt like I made a reasonable attempt to make the marriage work and if she wanted to end the marriage, then she should be the one to move out. I'm glad I held my ground on this because when it came time to tell the kids, they were told that it was her decision to move out. She still complains and tries to give me guilt trips for being the one to stay in the home, which just kind of shows me that she's starting to get a taste of how it'll be to be divorced and not liking it. We'll see how it plays out.
