Thanks for the reminder... i keep forgetting that their empathy chips so to speak are indeed broken!

I feel awkward about it but at the same time i remember us always having a good time on vacations but that was the OLD her.

You know... now that i think about it, if she will keep doing what she does now, meaning sitting there texting OM CONSTANTLY then that really makes me feel invisible next to her and i am not sure i would enjoy that. I cannot however say that to her face because it would only escalate things and i am trying to be non-confrontational as much as i possibly can.

Also: Tonight i got back from a long walk with some buddies and as i was undressing and getting some stuff done she actually told me "you know, you always seem so cold and distant when you get back from your friends" I had to seriously suppress myself from either laughing out loud OR bursting out at her in a WTF manner! I mean... seriously?

Then again it goes back to what you said i guess with her empathy chip being broken. How can that be a thing though? My W was THE single most empathetic person i ever knew before MLC, how can she TOTALLY forget what that is like? To the point where even I notice it since she used to always tell me how UNempathetic i was...