Happy......my 10 cents FWIW. I would not tell your children anything until you know what is going to happen. It sounds like they still live at home so if you sell the house it will have an impact on them. Obviously you want to give them time to make arrangements but I assume once you and your W reach an agreement they will have enough time. I don't think you should wait until the D is finalized but atleast wait until you and your W have reached an agreement (including the L' if needed). That way you definately know how the kids are going to be impacted vs telling them now and having to say we will let you know later how you will be impacted. As the parents you need to have plan laid out.
The only other advice I would give FWIW. Don't backslide on your hard earned changes making it seem like to her that you only did it to win her back. Calm, cool, collected and confident, not punitive or vindictive. IMO bringing up the cell phone bill the same day you get served is bad timing. Don't start asking her R questions and all of a sudden be needy. Approach this with confidence and your head held high.
Stay strong, double up on your efforts to GAL and self-help books. Truely sorry this has happened but how you handle this moving forward speaks volumes about your character. No shame, only pride.
J9 I see this as a begining to an end, I have no annimosity towards my W, I will not be vindictive but I do think she should pay her own way. I really do not see how she thinks I should still pay things for her.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
