Newbie In Need Of Guidance

[rminer]

Well, I'm not the best writer for sure, but I'm sorry it made no sense. Are you referring to my description of a wayward wife, or how a H should respond to his WW? Please ask questions about anything that doesn't make sense. There are several threads, and the last page gives the link to the next thread.

It's not your writing. It's the concept of what to do and what you say she is thinking. It seems completely backwards to me, and I don't understand how someone could risk destroying their family like this. In one of her texts she told the OM that "everyone is going to hate me after this," so she knows the potential consequences.

It's difficult, for me, to cover everything in just a handful of posts. So, I'm not trying to ignore or skip over your questions. It just takes time. That's one reason I decided to write those threads.

I know you answer a lot of questions on here, so I do appreciate the time you are giving me.

One thing you didn't answer though. Would it be wise to try to talk to her about "us," or the A (without proof)? Should I just let her know I will talk when she is ready and let her come to me?