Hi PsySara, one of my friends recommended a book called "He's Scared, She's Scared" by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol. She suggested that my husband is afflicted by "commitment conflict," which is what the book is about. After reading it I'm not sure if that's the source of the problem in my relationship but since your husband seems to follow a pattern of pulling closer and then pulling away I thought I'd share the name of this book in case you want to consider it, among other things.
