And still struggling

[Jim1234]

I thought the kids were doing fairly well in the divorce. I was wrong.

D16 isn't doing well in come classes. Just not turning in homework. She can easily handle the work; that's not the problem. Over Christmas break, she promised me she was doing some of the back homeworks each day, until the last day of break, claimed she only had 3 short assignments left. I left for a work trip, and haven't seen her until today, almost 2 weeks later.

I got online and checked, and her assignments were never turned in. I asked her, in as gentle a way as I am capable (and yes, objectively speaking, it was pretty gentle), what was going on. She confessed she hasn't done the homework. When I asked further, it's obvious the divorce is having far more impact than I thought, but she just won't really talk to me. She doesn't really talk to WAW, either.

Her best friend's 16th birthday party is tomorrow night. She asked days ago if she could sleep over, and I told her yes. Of course, this was before I knew about her not turning in her homework.

I guess I'm looking for some advice.... I'd like to be supportive, and help her get back on track by helping to resolve the issues that make doing her homework so hard now. But I don't see how I can still let her go to the party.