That's very similar to my situation. She doesn't envision dating anyone, she'd be happy if she never had sex again, she wants to be friends, she wants to still join my family for holidays, she wants to go out with other couples, she would like my help when she needs it.... I don't know what her "vision" of divorce was, but there was a serious disconnect between her vision and mine.
Eerily similar. My W is surprised that I would remain married in a good relationship, but if divorced, I won't be her best buddy.
Originally Posted By: Jim1234
Hopefully, when she realizes she can't have what she wants, and what she's left with isn't that great, maybe she'll rethink the divorce. In my case, I think it's going to take a long time for that realization to sink in. In the meantime, I'm trying to disconnect, and move on with my life, because that realization may never come....
This is the difficult part. I agree it may take a long time too. Since you're separated, detaching and getting to a point where you might care either way about the D may happen faster for you. For me having the W under the same roof, I have a mental schedule that if there's no sign of improvement in the late Spring, I'll be moving the D along, whereas now I am sitting back.
