WW, A ended, but limbo and unanswered Qs.(My 10th)

[hoosjim]

But, you certainly can't tell her it's fine to date......unless you let her know you will be dating as well

If we split, I would be open to her dating... and to doing likewise myself. I have been blessed with seeing interest from other women, which has helped my confidence immensely. So, she could date. I'd hope she would instead focus on herself and her own issues (and she does have issues), but she could date. But I have told her and would tell her again thst if she were to go back to OM at any point, even after a period of 'working on" or "trying to work on" the marriage, that I don't think, especially given her previous subterfuge, that id believe she'd ever given up the relationship with OM or intended to try to reconcile. I would, in short, not be able to entertain any kind of relationship with her.