There use to a man here by the name of Jim. He and his W had adopted five little boys. Then she left him and decided she just wanted the youngest two children. Here's the link, if you'd like to read his story:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...280#Post2640280

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!