WW, A ended, but limbo and unanswered Qs.(My 10th)

[hoosjim]

There is no path back together for us that involves separation. Separation means she defaults to her support system-- bff. Which means, also, OM. I will not take her back, ever or under any circumstances, if she goes back to him in any way, shape, or form. She'd be tainted goods in my eyes. And, even if she didn't, were we separated and apart for any amount of time under the circumstances, I don't know that I could trust that she hadn't... which brings me back to "I will not take her back."

Maybe it's a million to one shot if we stay together, in house... idunno. There certainly seem to be a lot of counselors, gurus, and whatnot out there however who seem to think marriages can be restored without separation so... either they or you guys gotta be wrong. Whatever. All I know is that when we have this conversation, if she does not commit and I or she "walks"... we're done. And that is why I need to make sure I have fully thought/prayed/considered the matter, and am ready to pull the plug if need be. I am pretty confident that I am... but, like I said, my take is that that means we are done for good.