The word "stander" is used on another forum and it's one that I've seen being used quite often on here. It's okay to use it because many of us know what it means.
As for the rings, no one knows what is going through the minds of the MLCers. We can mind read and assume what the ring symbolizes to them all day long, but at the end of the day, the only person who needs to know what it symbolizes is the person who is wearing them. Wearing the wedding ring or not is a personal choice.
If you aren't sure what to do, then do nothing at this time. I would suggest that you get another nice ring and place it on that finger if you feel the need to wear something on that hand. You can also put your wedding rings on a chain and wear them around your neck or place them on the other hand.
The decision to wear the rings or not is yours...what counts is that you are "standing" for your marriage, rings or no rings, and you don't need to advertise your stance to anyone. This is your personal choice.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
