Help needed from Far-east.

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To be honest, I don't know what you want. It's going to be hard to help you create a sentence, because, I can't tell if you are still trying to fight for your M or you are letting it all go. You are not DBing. You are just going with the flow. You haven't use much of the advice the board has given you.

I want my family back Joe. But, it will be so hard to "in house detached" watch her call, text or even see OM without feeling like a doormat. You are right about going with the flow. Yes, I am. This is why I need the word to make it clear on what I am going to do with my life then she will stop interrupting me or thinking that I manipulate her. I can't just do it because without telling created the problem at the first place.

You never update on what you GAL, 180s, and validations were. Every post you write, it's about what your W has said or what she is going to do in the Future.

I'm trying to do 180s and GAL at the same time. I have taken the back seat for long. I thought, it is her family business so, I let her in charge. Now, my 180s is stepping up which I've already started 2-3 years ago. I do everything is the store. All my wife has to do now is signing the paper. By in charge of everything, it is very hard to GAL. Our store is open 10 to 10, 7 days/wk. I went to the gym 2-3 times/wk. so, I'm in a good shape. I started listen to the music in my studio room again(I quit going to my studio room since I knew the A). I changed the way I dress to more adults style(W complained I dressed to look younger than her). I've already taken care of my D long time ago. So, nothing needs to change on that.(W thinks, she raised D for the first 5 yrs without my help and D was too young to appreciate and now I took all the credit.) I'm not kinda outdoors guy. My happiness is sport car and Hi-End stereo. I will find something more that might interest me.

I used to be quite when we fight and let the conflict fade away. My 180s is to talk which is the opposite from Sandi's rules. If I detach, it will be same me not my 180s. I'm so confuse.

What do you want to do? You W is in love with OM. Let her go. If you want a chance to get her back. Let her go!!!!!

I just finished your 3rd tread Joe. Yours is very similar to mine. The different is you can let W go but I have to let myself go. Like I said, this is her family home, I can't kick her out. She won't either. She just asked me nicely to leave. By letting her go for most people mean let her manage her own finance, move to the new place, suffer the consequence of being without husband. But not in my case, even though letting myself go will make it easy for me to detach and GAL. Other than that, I will be the one who suffer on the change until she have enough of OM and come take me back. This what I think.
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