Coly, don't know how it works up there but if you sell the house (and he's on the deed and/or the mortgage) you are very likely going to have to come to some resolution, at least as it pertains to the house.
In the state where I live, I cannot buy or sell property without my H's written approval, even if I use my own money, pay cash, and he is not listed on the deed.
I'm actually thankful for that because if he ever wants to buy a house in the awful place he lives then he will need to get his D. I will not be made a property owner in that dump.
So, not to put a damper on it, but as you contemplate the fresh start, check into whether he would have to sign anything and whether that might be pushing your situation a place you don't want to go. He may affably go along with a divorce he doesn't even want because he thinks its what you want him to do.
I hate to see you sitting around waiting, and hope that you won't, but I still believe deep down that you and your H are not done yet.
