In the mean time, several strange things have happened lately, that have made me think he is a good partner for me in general.
I learned from my A that the OM may have had strengths my H lacked, but so did my H have strengths the OM lacked. Sometimes, you have to look closely to see if you are just trading one set of problems for another set that's going to make you miserable.
The possibility of a new relationship seems fresh and exciting. There is no painful history with a new person. For some reason, we see a new relationship being easier, and perhaps in some cases it is. I've seen it happen. And I've also seen women bitterly disappointed after they've had time to learn and experience more "truth" with the new person.
I will forever be grateful that my eyes were beginning to see things in the OM, although I wanted to be in denial. It was the preparation for what was to come for me.
Blu, I felt you were probably a little hurt by something that was previously said to you. I think the first person who ever replied to me said something pretty negative about me. That's to be expected when the board's population is mostly hurting LBS's. For a moment, you became a target for their bitterness.
Actually, I have been extremely blessed that I haven't had very many negative posts directed at my character. Maybe the difference is that I went from a WW to reconciling with my H. For all I know, someone may have thought you were worse for trying to stick it out for so long.....and then having a change of heart. Who knows? They may have been having a bad day and took it out on you. No excuse, just saying....
Personally, I don't expect you to be as involved in posting, especially if you feel it has no benefits for you. Those on the board need to feel they are receiving or giving something. I think the people who feel emotionally invested in you, would like to hear from you occasionally. We become bonded in a special way on the board, IMHO. There are a lot of people I would love to hear how they are doing now, but they never post anymore. Oh well, maybe I have spent too much time, as well.
Thanks for dropping in and letting us know how you are doing. You have been a favorite around here.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
