Come on man! I call BS! It may not be black mail but you are being passive aggressive and trying to guilt her into staying. Do you remember how it worked out for you when you threatened her with a divorce?
Pardon me, but why am I blackmailing her? I ASK her to stay in our home with kids and be happy.
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Listen Mav. You only want your W to stay in the marriage if she chooses to stay on her own. Not because you threatened to leave the country.
If you do leave the country and leave those young beautiful kids behind, you are no better a person then she is right now. Those kids didn't nothing to cause this a now their father is going to move away?
This bothers me a lot, but I KNOW I cannot be a healthy man or father being around now. She, as I have mentioned before, has a huge social network she can fill-in her day with and find Male admirers. For me it will be struggle.
Appart from that I do not plan to leave the country and forget about the kids, first it will be coupe of months absence to give ME the space. I will still be working for the same company and will secure my position here in Germany.
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You are very early in the process, stop the relationship conversations and stop looking any farther then getting through today.
Print out Sandi's rules and read them 5 times everyday.
I'm not gonna sugar coat it this is probably the fuching hardest thing you will ever do in your life! You will get through it and be happy again if you do the hard work necessary.
Yes, that is what I strive for now. For my happiness. I cannot be happy if I see her with OM around other people I know in couple of months. I need to detach, as it is very much advised here, and taking on a new challenge in US will be a great opportunity to do so and meet new people.
