Dude.....I have went back and forth as well. I have seen my W the past 2 days during kid exchange since my oldest is stick and I am working from home and she is not even close. I am re-reading DR to see if I can pull some inspiration from it to continue on. The problem is that the first Chapter is the D trap
I am happy with who I am, I am more aware of my pitfalls as a partner however most of this is on her. I have got my mojo back. The truth is I am a simple man, give me my kids, let me hit the gym, get a lift in and play basketball, meet some guys out for a few beers once in a while and I am good (also include some light reading). I don't need a bunch of extra $hit in my life to make me happy. It's who I am and I am good with that.
Anyways, I hear you man. I pray for clarity daily and for guidance with my decisons.