Gordie #16: walking away from from MLC W

[Gordie]

Thanks all for the replies on my last thread. I will reply when I have more time.

Advice wanted:

So stbx came to talk to me about D1. Background is that D1 and stbx have always been very close. Since D1 found out about OM2, she has gone absolutely NC with stbx. If they are in the same room, D1 gives stbx icy glares. So stbx has tried to talk to D1 to no avail.

So now stbx wants me to broker the peace. Stbx is concerned that if I don’t get involved before D1 goes back to college far from home, then the NC will continue indefinitely. On the one hand, I think this is between the two of them to work out. On the other hand, I do want them to have a R with each other.

I am inclined to approach D1 and say the following. I love you and I know you are angry with mom about everything. That being said, she is divorcing me and not you. Mom asked me to talk to you because she and I don’t want this to be the end of your R. You have evey right to feel however you are feeling. And you have a choice about how you want to interact (or not) with mom. How are you feeling? What do you want? How can I help?