I told her, I want them to stay home, and that she will pay me some rent, and it will be her home. I told her, that I do that for the kids and because I understood, that I do not want hurt her and most importantly kids to suffer more than they will. They feel good in that home. I also reassured, that I will most probably leave the country as I need to move forward with my life and I do not see that happening where I am now. I came here for her, and I was happy with that. Now, as she decided to move forward without me, I need to address my needs and move with my life forward as she did. I was very calm, did not try to make her change the mind or blackmail her. On the contrary I showed that after our previous conversation I realize it's over with our M.
Come on man! I call BS! It may not be black mail but you are being passive aggressive and trying to guilt her into staying. Do you remember how it worked out for you when you threatened her with a divorce?
Listen Mav. You only want your W to stay in the marriage if she chooses to stay on her own. Not because you threatened to leave the country.
If you do leave the country and leave those young beautiful kids behind, you are no better a person then she is right now. Those kids didn't nothing to cause this a now their father is going to move away?
You are very early in the process, stop the relationship conversations and stop looking any farther then getting through today.
Print out Sandi's rules and read them 5 times everyday.
I'm not gonna sugar coat it this is probably the fuching hardest thing you will ever do in your life! You will get through it and be happy again if you do the hard work necessary.
