HaWho, I’m so sorry it came to this… I agree with others, it is probably time go get things moving, one way or another. It sounds like you are handling it pretty well. I completely understand your hesitation regarding the lawyers. It took me some time before I was ready to make the appointments and interview a few. I was not rushed thought, as H was not pushing for anything. It looks like you have no choice.
A lot of lawyers do first free consultations. I can schedule a few of those before you make you final choice. I think you are in the same state as I am. One of the law firms I went to was in downtown. They gave me a lot of important information. They also told me that by making an appointment with them, I was making it an official record (they put my visit in their system), and by the state law this date could be considered a date of separation. This means that any debt and earnings made by me or H would not be considered common property. So, I would advise you to keep all the records of your consultations.
They also told me that not all lawyers do litigation, if it comes to it. They said that they had a great success in litigation. This is something to consider when you select a lawyer.
I think it is a great plan to call S14th school in case H delivers his “surprise” before the final exams. I think your H know that you would be concerned about your son’s exams, and this is why is bullying you. Please don’t give up, don’t rush with any decisions. Your son will recover; he will be able to catch up. Your finances are very important right now, and your son will benefit from a good decision you make.
You’ve got a lot of great advice here. Hang in there… Sending you lots of love!
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
