I have a friend from Texas. A pal from university in England. He would use the phrase ‘pussy whipped’ (his Texan phrase not mine).
I am Texan born and raised, and I have never considered until reading this that this phrase is unique to Texas, LOL! I thought it was universal
Originally Posted By: Joe2017
I'm not really this weak. I need to stop.
Joe, have you read the Happiness Trap? If not, I highly recommend it. Showing grief IS NOT weakness. Feeling grief, showing it and owning it is the opposite of weakness, it is POWER. Grief and sadness are emotions, we wrongly assign "positive" and "negative" values to emotions when instead we should accept that ALL emotions have purpose and ALL are part of our lives. They are not good or bad, they just "are". We need to own them and experience them rather than trying to bury them. When you see an adult (man or woman) cry do you think "oh man how weak is that" or do you feel empathy towards them? When people show vulnerability we actually feel closer to them.
For the record, after BD I cried all the way to work and all the way home, and I have a 30-40 minute commute. Day after day after day. A lot of times even after I got home I would go in the room and cry some more. I was raised to believe crying was wrong and being a wussy, I could have counted on one hand the number of times I had cried from being a teen to BD. But man after BD I made up for lost time. Am I embarrassed about it? Do I feel weak? Absolutely not, it was cathartic. Being sad and lonely and hurt and upset is not a sign of weakness. You are not weak, if you were you would be curled up in a ball somewhere instead of here laying your soul bare with us. You are strong.
