it's like that... i was content to have the love of the object of my affection--from afar... and it seems your WW is content too... she is not going to suddenly tire of it and then come running back to you... what could end it is forcing their hand... but with you willingly supporting her, why should anything change for her? she's where she wants to be...
God knows it helps to have another former WW to talk to these LBH's! At least, you won't think it's just my opinion. WW's have a lot in common when it comes to their mindsets, their actions and words.
Your WW could go on like this for years. Both men are providing what she needs. You are providing her physical needs, and OM is providing her emotional needs. She has one foot in both men's lives. (Only the OM isn't taking it seriously).
I understand money problems. I understand feeling stuck and not feeling empowered to change it. I seriously do, GW! You must be intelligent to represent yourself in court cases and win. But your emotions have prevented you from thinking like that guy who wins. You had one thought of reporting the OM to his superiors, and you can't seem to get past it. Forget it, b/c it is not going to win you back the MR....and it is preventing you from thinking on better options. You are smart enough to figure out what to do.
So, do your research and see what options you have. Sometimes, we have to consider which of our problems is the worst to live with. Know what I mean?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
