I dispute your stance on reconciliation, RC is possible if given enough time and the correct management of the situation. Of course we have no control over our WS actions but that’s not the point here that’s NOT Divorce Busting!
We have no magical technique or button to press what we do have is the gift of time from our WS, FORGET her actions, her plans and her attitude towards you it will only bring you away from what you need to do which is to create your own identity away from them and begin to ween yourself off from the dependency.
We need to be more independent as this serves us well irrelevant of the outcome.
Rest assured in time everything changes this includes the “soulmate” R my WW is in! If they choose to stay together in a crappy R then so be it WHO CARES!
If you choose to stand for your M then use the time to nurture your identity away from your WS, become the alpha male and super dad or the female version in the knowledge that you do this to benefit you and to be brutally honest you have no other choice at this time.
There issues are exactly that THEIRS and there’s nothing you can do to make them change, it’s all based on them.
FORGET THEM AND WORK ON YOU, TRUST IN TIME…PAITENCE.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
