I just caught up on what's happened. I'm so sorry to hear of this turn of events. Our situations are so similar...I just was, unlike you, unaware of the MLC while my XH was in house.
The advice you are getting is great. I thought my XH was actually trying to be kind and generous, and even felt sorry for his pain as we went through the D. However, there were some surprisingly callous moments then and even a bit now that have surprised me. Its hard to reconcile who they either have become or who they are revealing themselves to be. Be very careful and do treat this as a business deal. His feelings in this are his own and should not be taken into account at this time. Business, pure and simple. What is best for you and your ability to parent successfully. And yes, that might include agreements on family or individual therapy.
I can't even come close to the all-star advice you are getting, but I'm here for support. This will soon pass...you will be able to breath again. Hug the kiddos, keep busy, eat well, sleep well, and make time for vigorous excercise and talks with friends. You know the drill. Take care of you and yours and leave him to stew and bake in his own kitchen. Yours is now closed to him. Allow him the pleasure of smelling what's cooking and drooling outside now.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
Take care of you and yours and leave him to stew and bake in his own kitchen. Yours is now closed to him. Allow him the pleasure of smelling what's cooking and drooling outside now.