New LBS dealing with WW Part 4

[Joe2017]

Last night I returned to the home at an unexpectedly late time. I was expecting WW to be in the MBR, trying to reclaim it but she was not. She was in her usual spot and WW was on the phone with OM. Talking loud and obviously trying to make it a point for me to hear her. That is crappy because it means it's loud enough for the kids to hear too.

The in house S is starting to really get to me. It is incredibly difficult for me to get any peace of mind for myself or the kids. She is constantly trying to make it clear that I have to leave her son alone and I am not to be called "dad" by S14 anymore. She feeds S14 separate from S16. She will do everything possible to make it uncomfortable for us and to make the two kids feel like there should be separation between them.

Her actions are seriously detrimental to the kids, but she blames ME for this! Because I'm "trapping" her here by not moving MYSELF out of the MH. It is so awful for everyone. I know for a fact that the kids know I am not the instigator. It does not make things alright, though.

I'm about one month away from the point where litigation can start. I'm still awaiting the next round of paperwork from her attorney (even though she keeps saying it's on my attorney).

I am thinking of just moving out and getting an apartment, just to get some peace for myself and S16. The other day she interrogated S16 about my location and accused him of hiding my whereabouts from her.

I know this goes against DBing. I am trying to see if I can wait this out and make her be the one to make they decision to move out. But the fog is thick, and she is stubborn. My attorney did not say that I could get any kind of paperwork to force her out of the MH.

I'm stuck in a holding pattern. I know V advocated for an OOP, but the way it works is that WW will have to be served paperwork to show up in court to defend the OOP. I think it would really stir the pot too much?