Help needed from Far-east.

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Thank you Maika. I get the ideas of how I should live my life more and more every time someone reply me. I am getting better everyday now. However, my wife's never let me detached or GAL peacefully. She said, "You can be happy without me, why stay? Why?!?!?!?"

2 days ago, I drove my D to boarding school with my W. On our way back, my W started conversation and made it 3 hrs straight while I was driving. To make a long story short, she blamed me on the same old stories. And, she wants me to leave.

OM told her before he left last time that he will come see her on February to get the answer of which one she choose. She wants a solution on what I will plan to do, so she can plan hers. Right now, OM has stopped contacting her and if OM found out that we are still living together or still don't have any solutions, she may lose OM again for good.

I didn't have the answer for her. I told her, "You never asked me before you have an A, you've never stopped when I asked you to. So, you do whatever you want". Before we got home, she said that she will tell her parent right away that we have a problem and will live separately. She will also tell her parent about her A too if she has to. However, she didn't tell them anything that night. Not yet.

Tomorrow, she will go to Taiwan with her parent for 5 days. I want time to think. I told her I will let her know whatever I decide when she come back. (I want to get some opinions from this board before I make a statement to W.)

The question is; If I'm not leaving, what should I say to W that is not making me needy, pursue or whatever that I'm not supposed to? I will detach, I will GAL and I will stay. (W goes see OM, doesn't make me angry much anymore. Part of me said that I'm enough with this woman. I just really care for my D's feeling if we get separated.) Please help me create the sentence to say to my W.

BTW, W snooped on my phone a couple time, I think she wants to know if I talk to any women to use it against me.