Wow, great advice Bttrfly. And thanks for recommending the forensic accountant. I am going to talk to the lawyer about that.

And yes, h will never agree to counseling for the kids but I like the idea of writing it in and negotiating that into the deal.

Thank you.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced