HaWho - you have been at this a long time, but now you're in a new and very heightened phase. Do your very best not to think ahead further than one week. Do your very best to take care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually.

Take as much time as necessary to figure out what you want. You cannot negotiate anything unless you know what you want.

You may want to consider setting up counseling for the kids. It's the one thing I wish I'd insisted upon, and held up everything to get exh's cooperation on it.

When you don't know what to do, do nothing.

Keep an exercise program and basic daily routine for yourself.

We are here for you honey. You got this xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver