Calling HaWho

[HaWho]

OMG - started crying when I saw the reach out Wonka. And so happy that I did not have to take the time to start a thread right now and pick a name and all that. Thank you. And thank you Ownit, Job, Ginger, KML, Andrew and anyone else I just missed for the advice from my last thread. Cannot tell you how thankful I am for the support.

Wonka - I am going to write it to him exactly as you've written it once I obtain a lawyer. I know this will be ugly. Today when I asked the accountant for the older returns h sent me a text merely saying that he approved the accountant giving them to me. See that? The control there? As though I have no right to returns I signed on? That is what this whole process will be. And because he has zero common sense right now he thinks his way is the sane way.

Then he emailed me saying this accountant knows his dad and now his family probably knows and his mom is old so it's not good for her to know yet. And there comes the guilt. So his accountant gossips with family members? Lots of control issues coming out. Even weirder? He's worried about his mom but think this will not affect his kids? Sure.

I merely said that yes I wanted copies and cannot access those as they are locked in his room. He said "you just need to ask me and I can help." Bizarre given the angry rant he wrote me hours earlier where he said I would be zero to him if I did not respond by 9PM. And yeah, don't think I'll be emailing you my playbook.

Job, as for h's lawyer, h wanted me to go there and get the papers myself. I asked him to mail them via certified mail because I did not want to meet his lawyer at all. A) lawyer (rightfully) probably does think I'm a moron as who would marry someone who wrote that gibberish legalese? And B) I was worried he'd try to probe me on my thought process and then report back to h.

So now they are being mailed. Nice and simple.

And yes, Job, I do want to ask him what the big rush is. Initially he said he couldn't take one more second in that room.

As I have said, I am ready to part ways. Mostly I feel like I am sneaking out a window from some crazy person's dungeon. But, boy oh boy, am I so heart broken for my kids. The idea of seeing them 50% of the time makes me hurt. The idea of their worlds being shattered is tough. I hope KML is right and maybe it will be easier than I think. Like Ownit said, the stronger I am the better they'll be.

Thank you all. Special thanks to Wonka for the ready made letter. The only change I'll make? Instead of addressing him as "Mr. Loco," I may go with "Mr. Bean." Man, that letter he wrote was something else.