I am so so SORRY to read of the latest developments in your sitch. Wow...truly bonkers!!!
Agree with all of the advice and golden nuggets proffered by the peanut gallery, I'd also like to offer my writing services to you that comes with a strong drink for you to tide you through this mess!
Below is a suggested draft email to H...please feel free to change it up as you see fit to suit your own style and preferences. You can use this or throw all of it away. Won't bother me one jot.
Mr. Loco,
I wanted to take a moment to collect my thoughts and get back to you.
First of all, I recognize that the marriage has not been working well for some time which greatly saddens me. As you can see, it is not that simple nor is it easy to dissolve a long-term marriage such as ours. When one takes into the consideration the division of assets we have accumulated over the years and the breakdown of the family unit, it is within my legal rights to retain my own attorney to advise and assist me in navigating through such a complex process.
From this point and on, it would be helpful that all matters related to the dissolution of the marriage are to be communicated through our own respective attorneys. This means that all communications related to the divorce proceedings, division of assets, and other relevant matters are to be handled strictly through our lawyers. This is the best course of action given the highly emotional nature of this process and I am going to insist that you respect my decision and my choice to retain my own lawyer. I know you feel differently and I respect that.
As for our children, I believe it is important that we continue in our parenting role as we have been doing over the last several months and I wanted to check in with you to keep our lines of communication open on this front as Mom and Dad. It is important that the kids have both of us involved in their lives as co-parents. I know that we both want to be there for them as you know that they are our greatest blessings.
Thanks for your understanding during a challenging time as this is obviously a new territory for all of us in the family which cannot be easy at all.
