My W actually stated that when the love was "gone" there was no way for it to return. Once the flame is out it can't be relit.

This is complete non-sense in my opinion, but in order for the flame to be relit the W needs to want to do so.

Truthbuster.

Married 4.5, Together 6
M: 36, W: 33, no kids
Separation date: 7/8/2017
Bomb dropped: 8/18/2017
Last communication: 1/8/2018 - now nothing
OM confirmed - now ended (?)