BTW - what kind of assets are we talking about here? House should be pretty straightforward if you bought it together - either sell and split equity or an arrangement to live in it until the boys finish high school as discussed above.
Retirement plans - if you have any pensions or defined benefit plans, you need a QDRO to divide them properly, unless they are of equivalent value and you keep yours and he keeps his. 401Ks and IRAs should be divided evenly if they were accumulated during the marriage.
Child support and spousal support are usually by formula. If your incomes are roughly the same there may not be either IF he goes fo 50% custody.
Anything else to consider in your finances? Any special situations? How much debt do you have (credit card or other?)
