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Coconut
My understand is that you are entitled to confidentiality.
Do you have an L?
V

We are doing a dissolution of M, in FL It’s $400, we had to fill out paperwork stating that we have split all assets and debts to satisfaction, we have no children together and we both agree that the M is irreconcilable. No lawyers, no fighting for support, etc. We just have to appear together at a hearing and each state that the M is irreconcilable and the Judge signs off on the divorce. I don’t know if the hearing is open to the public or not.

The opposite of love is indifference.
Why should it matter if she brings OM or not? He was never the threat to the marriage - her level of commitment was.
Let go of the anger - she will need to face the consequences of her actions as she lives the rest of her life. I know, easier said than done.

Your absolutely right, although I feel like it would really be disrespecting me, as it should be obvious that I don’t want him involved in this, but in the long run I guess it really doesn’t matter. But thinking about it objectively, I think Ginger is right and she won’t bring him.

I agree with both V and Trumpet.
It IS inappropriate if STBX brought a boyfriend. For sure.
But given the choice between trying to control them and remaining emotionally invested and just shrugging it off, I'd go with shrugging it off.

Agreed

Dating? I did go on a few dates. But not with the intention of being with someone, it was more with the intention of practicing getting into the mindset of going out, meeting someone that wasn't my H, chatting with them and maybe even flirting with them a little as well. Even just that felt very, very weird. I wasn't sure I was entirely comfortable with it, it also felt confusing and I did feel a little out of my depth as well. A lot of stuff to be dealing with and processing, for sure.

Wow, I haven’t starting writing about my feelings in posting on a online dating site, but this is along the line of what I’m thinking about it. I work in an office alone, I had a co-worker who shared the office, but she went out due to medical 7 months ago and I’ve been alone in my office since, I see at most 2 people in a day and most days it’s just me. I don’t know anyone in my town that I “hang out” with, most of my communication on a daily basis is by phone and/or text, although I travel frequently to be around friends on the weekends. I want to start becoming social on a daily basis, have someone to meet up for a meal, movie, fair, whatever. I posted the profile in hopes of just meeting people, becoming social again, and building a network of friends. I haven’t reached out to anyone on the dating site, but had one that reached out to me, but so far she seems a little more in need of attention than what I am ready to give to one person. I’ll talk more on that after the D is done.


Thank you all for your input/support, it really helps to get others input to help me remain grounded. I'm in a good state of mind right now, flying out in a couple of hours.