So, aside from the privacy issue and the legal case that she's upset about, what else is she upset about that you find justified or unjustified?
You talk about you being depressed and unemployed. Trust me, I know what that feels like. I became a dark cavern in that time and didn't want to be around people and just didn't pay attention to my W's needs as a partner (as a father, I was always 100% there).
Think of the time you got married and the person you were and what changed during your marriage. Which qualities did your W admire about you and what happened during the depression. I think those are good areas to start thinking about where you might have fallen short and what you need to do to get your mojo back.
Also, there is something really weird about your case and how it is of such importance to your in-laws and W. Something is not right there.
