I can't believe your MLCers are so crazy HaWho and OwnIt! My XH is positively sane compared to your two weirdos.
Agree that getting the financial settlement done quickly is preferable, but not at such a pace as to cause distress to you HaWho. My XH is still jerking me around with our settlement, but now that the divorce has been granted, I have some bandwidth to concentrate on getting it done - as much as I hate doing it!
It irks me that were our marriages considered to be contractually binding business arrangements, and our XH's reneged on all promises, they would most likely be ordered to pay all legal costs once they'd been found to have been in breach. In our cases, the 'no fault' divorce principle has done us few favours. To me it seems a bit unfair to be expected to pay emotionally and financially for what can be seen as the completely irrational actions of somebody else.
