Hi Nicole,

Thank you for giving us some in depth information. Try to concentrate on you and your health right now. Please don't feel you have to respond to everyone individually...we all know how hard it is to keep track. And what an emotional time you're having. The most important issue is for you to speak to your attorney about your financial state. Hopefully they can advise you on your best course of action to get the financial outcome you need for you and your daughter.

I'm so sorry you're going through this and money is so tight. Just go for those walks with your daughter, breath the fresh air, anything that helps you stay calm. I used to put some music on and dance around the kitchen with my children, it took me out of my funk. I know you're exhausted but even five mins can be exhilarating and distraction enough. Everything can seem like hard work right now. Just do a little at a time.

Have you heard about the tapping solution? It's a series of taps on the face and chest...it sounds bizarre but it works to calm anxiety and depression. My counsellor introduced it to me to help me with flashbacks and other issues regarding my H. It may be a useful tool for you, if you look it up I'm sure there would be info online.

Good luck and huge hugs on the medical tests. Here for you x


Me 50 H 48
S 23 S 21 D 19
Together 31 years
Married 25 years
Separated April 2009 Reconciled 2010
Separated September 2017