Any advice 5

[Subitai]

I agree you need to focus on "show, don't tell" for your changes. If she questions them, just shrug. Don't talk about them. When I was still new to this, if I talked about what I was trying to do (even in the context of being a better dad) my W would say I was trying to turn the story into my redemption story, and this wasn't that story. It was our divorce. So... yah. It also hurt for her to hear me trying to do things better NOW rather than THEN, so... don't talk about it.