As to your legislation idea, I agree with you. I also think this would be a great project for you to take on in your state. You have people rounded up and stories to tell. I'm looking for a fight. I'd be happy to take it on in my state too.
Why shouldn't abuse in divorce be treated like a preference in bankruptcy with actions voidable within a certain time frame of divorce or separation (or the contemplation of the same) as preferences in bankruptcy are. Additionally, the penalty should be forfeiture as you indicate in order to curb the potential for abuse. I think if you can establish incapacity as in your case, it should be a 2 or 3 times penalty, such as an exceptional case.
