To provide some context, she never wanted to get involved in my mother's business, didn't even want to know anything about it, so after my mother suddenly became terminally ill, i had to take over involuntarily from one day to the other which threw our family into complete chaos basically. (Priority no: 1 was to get rid of it for my family's and my own sake)
So this one day, where i was completely stuck and desperate with the whole situation, i asked/pressured her into helping me since i couldn't take it alone anymore. So that basically was the culmination of all she hated about the whole situation right there. I should NEVER have pressured her into that situation where she felt she HAD to solve it.
As for the man card, well basically, this was the last straw for her since she has felt for quite some time before already that SHE was always the one to take the reigns in most situations where it really mattered, not me (and probably rightfully so) so this thing here must have really shattered every last bit of attraction she had left for me i guess.
It makes a lot of sense in retrospect, a husband pleading to his wife to help him in a situation that HE is supposed to handle really doesn't add to the attraction factor when the marriage was already hanging by a thread
It's ok though, i realize it now and it was probably necessary for me to hit rock bottom in this way so i can wake up and begin my long overdue rebirth as a hopefully better man than i was before! I am cautiously optimistic for the first time in a long time...
Kyh:
I'll check out the stages though not sure if they always apply in the same way with everyone in chronological order like that.
