At this point, OM is thrown in my face often, but not in the "this is who I'm sleeping with" sense (which I could not care less about) but always connected to D.
The funny thing is I accept that they need to have a relationship, but how she's doing it is damn messed up.
I bet she also has noticed that you don't care who she is with now so she keeps targeting the part that she knows will affect you. It is really messed up and I really wonder how the OM wants to be any part of this... Albeit, I've learned that I shouldn't reflect my own morals to others - but I just see no good coming from this.
As for the "poor me" attitude, I can totally understand it. Just remember, she's really messed up. My therapist said that people who act this way, mock others etc. are just really insecure and unhappy in their own lives so they try to find the quick fix/drag others down too. So, try to forget about this and walk your own path day by day without any rush. No matter how hard it is that she pushes OM so much for D already, take your own time. Your D definitely needs stability for her life right now and you are definitely showing it.
The day will come when everything is calm and fine again. bro hug
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
