I would give him a date and time to pick up his stuff and advise him that it will be in the new and improved black trash bag luggage and he can either come get it or by the specified date and time, you will donate it to a worthy cause.
Truly, if he needed any of this "stuff" he would have come and got it by now.
I used the specified date/time for my xh because I got tired of looking at the black trash bad luggage in the garage. He came and got some of it and said he would need another day to pick it up, so I set up another drop dead date and told him that I would be donating the rest of it to Goodwill if he didn't come get it. Well, he came and got the stuff. Was I sorry I did this? No, that stuff was a constant reminder of him and what he had done. It was giving me false hope that maybe, just maybe, he would return some day...but he didn't and it's my understanding, the stuff is still in the bags at his house.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
