Living in the Present, only Looking Forward

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What should I be doing now? (It's done)

That's what I'm doing now, as much as I can anyway. It's been 15 1/2 months since I separated from my STBXW (henceforth referred to as ex), and the divorce hearing to finalize is set for Jan 10th (2 days). I'm flying to FL tomorrow after work, hearing is set the next day at 1030hrs and I'm flying home that evening. Quick and painless, right?

I have two questions I'd appreciate opinions on, they are:

1. My mother asked if I wanted her to come with me for support, I told her no. My thought is that it might make it harder to say what I have to say if I feel like she's watching me admit my M is a failure and cannot be saved. I plan on heading to her house after the hearing, so I will be around family afterwards for a few hours before going to the airport. Do you think it would be a good idea to ask her to come?

2. I've told my ex not to bring her boyfriend to the hearing. Initially I planned to just leave if she brought him, I'm not subpoenaed, the divorce just won't happen if we aren't both there. She would then need to file for divorce costing her a lot of money, kind of a final F you. I'm reconsidering that option because I want this to go through and be done with it, but fear anger will get the best of me if she shows up with him, thoughts on forcing her to file at a much higher cost? (yes, I'm being spiteful, just need to hear someone else say it)

Overall, I've been enjoying life, embarking on adventures and embracing my love for the outdoors. I had a few down days last week after seeing her facebook posts introducing her new "baby" to everyone. But I got past that funk after a few days, and am optimistic about my present/future.

I have waited to date until my D is final, but on Friday went ahead and created a profile on an online dating site (I included that I was still M and the D date in the profile). I was contacted by someone Saturday morning, and we have been texting a little. It's been nice to start getting to talk with someone, but I've held off on asking her to meet IRL because I'd rather do that after the D is final.

Anyway, it's been a whirlwind but thankfully the circus should be over soon, my son's planning to go away to college in 6 months and I should have no more contact with ex, other than sons milestones (graduation, marriage, etc.).