Ok so I rattled off that message but realized I didn't elaborate on the narcissist part. I don't believe my husband is a narcissist because he's not a controlling person. He doesn't have high self-esteem and doesn't seek admiration from others...some of the things they list on the narcissism personality resource places. He used to be an empathetic person and from what I see, he still is to everyone else except me. I hear him on the phone and he's still the same nice guy to everyone else. Just not me.
I think my husband may have something like bi-polar disorder, addiction tendencies (to spending money, shopping), or PTSD. Maybe he's depressed. Maybe he just wasn't equipped to deal with life here in the US coming from a country where life was very simple. He lived with his parents, who took care of everything for him, before he came here. Then I took care of everything when we were married up until a few years ago. Maybe he wants to be free to live his own life because he feels like he didn't get that option and I'm the obstacle.
I still can't understand it. Maybe I'm all wrong and he's a narcissist but I know one of the limitations of forums like these is that we only get a small snapshot into each other's lives and marriages. Our perceptions of things may be different than reality.
I'll try to stop there or else I'll keep writing forever!
