Why are you trying to get a quick resolution on this?
Numerous posters have advised you not to pursue or pressure and to let things play out.
I guess I just needed to try.
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Out of curiosity did the begging fix anything?
For the situation - no, it was on the edge of making things worse. As I have said we have settled it with her. For me personally - yes. I have no illusion I can fix anything, at least in foreseeable future. I woke up without heart squeeze today.
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It generally only makes things worse. i.e. Your actions are pushing you towards an outcome you dont want.
People are offering you advise - does not make sense to come here and then carry on doing what you feel like.
You need to stop and take a deep breath and start this process again. It will take MONTHS/YEARS not days/weeks - they are trying to help you to not make these mistakes.
All is right what you said. It is just I, personally, needed to pass this breaking point.
Now I can leave the "dreams" of fixing something aside and move on with my new life, letting my wife go her path. Might be out paths cross again at some point, not for now though.
You think that now.. But you WILL change your mind/feelings again at lest 100 times in this process.
It could be on Wednesday you wake up and want to call her again. It happens.
People will say "Im done, its 100% over" and then a week later they wake up and feel alone and reevaluate and want to contact the W again"
Hence the advise focus on you. That will never change. Its the only constant you have and you can control at the moment.
If you find yourself doing anything (that if your honest with yourself) is to get a reaction from her then stop.
