I don't even remember my attorney's name, and not sure he would be right for your situation. I would transfer half of what's in any joint checking or savings to an account of your own asp. You will also want to file an order for temporary support asap.
This may not affect your boys as much as you think - they may feel relief with his negativity out of the house. And you will be free. Don't be afraid. You did everything you could, you didn't break him and you can't fix him.
