Wife wont admit to affair, its driving me nuts! 2

[Morbo]

Sandi wrote

My suggestion is not to have a FB bashing. I'm sure it must be tempting to reply to her mean/untrue remarks, but this is the mother of your children, and there is no need to publicly tear her down. I say "publicly" b/c you never know who is reading social media. You don't have to defend yourself, and it's not a popularity contest.

I'm not on FB. Friends have just informed me what she's saying.
I have no intention in rejoining FB or replying to her or publicly shaming her.

Some friends know and family know too of the affair. I said nothing for almost a year as I tried in vain to get back with my wife who had no interest. I made the changes I needed, ignored the fact that she was probably emotionally involved with someone else and just gave her the benefit of the doubt. I never really argued with her even though I thought she was wrong, I was convinced I was a POS and deserved it.

Its only recently that I've really been calling her out on her BS.
I'm not backing down.

Also, I would spare your parents of too many details about your W's affair.

Yes, I divulged some of the affair details to family(her secret trips, her phone calls to OM, other things) which MAY get me in trouble if we did reconcile but they're all totally true. Ugggghh.

So she texted me about kids stuff today. We exchanged a few terse, cranky texts. It annoyed me so I couldnt help myself but sent the the very friendly pic of her and OM that she didnt know I had. Yeah, one of those "truth darts" I guess.
She went into the usual, "We're just good friends, he's really helped me in these awful times". I was having none of it and we had a couple of other angry exchanges and I guess that will be it til we see each other on wed morning.

Yes, I KNOW I should be going total NC. She's really been pushing the buttons.. I did need to reply about the kids stuff though... Will keep busy the next few days and try not to be an idiot :-)