Well, that may explain his behavior over the holidays.
I am so sorry that he hit you w/those papers today. I have this feeling that he's been planning this for quite some time. Sure you can look over the papers, but I strongly advise you to get your own lawyer and have him/her look them over for you. Take your time w/those papers.
If you haven't already done this...get your accounts separated asap. Start taking photos of the inside of your house because he's going to be sneaking things out w/o asking you about them and you will only discover things gone when you need them. Yes, this does happen quite frequently. I have to wonder how he's planning to fill this apartment w/furniture and where is he getting the money for the security deposit and the first month's rent w/o you being aware of money missing from the accounts or do you already have separate accounts?
Yes, it does sound like he's got someone waiting in the wings. The person may not actually be fully present, but I'm sure he's either got someone or is speaking to someone.
Oh, no! He doesn't get to decide to tell the boys by himself. You definitely need to be there to hear the BS he tells them. It's more like you and the boys will support each other.
Well, I give him credit for one thing...he's the one that is going to lose out big time. You and the boys will be okay...but that man has completely lost the plot if he thinks he's going to be happy out there in the cruel world. I'm glad to see he's admitted he can't stand his dorm room any longer...but that was his choice. He could have lived and shared the entire house w/everyone like a normal human being.
As for the 12 years, please do not drink the Kool Aid he's serving up. You would have known if things were as bad as he stated. If they were that bad, he should have manned up and discussed the situation w/you 12 years ago and not in the last few years.
I know this comes as a shock to you, but maybe it's for the best. He's been "stuck" for quite some time and this just might help him start facing the consequences of his actions. One thing I do know, you and your sons will have a more peaceful home environment and not have to worry about walking around on eggshells.
HaWho, I am here for you, just as everyone else is. Keep the focus on you and your sons and this is now a business deal gone south. Take all the time you need to read over those papers and find a lawyer that can and will represent you. Leave him to his own lawyer.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
