Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[reframe]

Her love language is touch and quality time.
We always made time to cuddle and be close over the years, and to spend time together.

After our last fight/blow up she said I was "acting desperate" for months. So I'm walking a pretty fine line here. I still initiate some affectionate touching throughout the day, but I've backed WAY off of on it, and I try to calibrate my touching to hers, or at least her level of responsiveness.

I feel like I'm in a bit of a double bind here - I don't want to pursue, but I also need to try and meet her need to love and reassurance.